Emotions - the good, the bad and the ugly

Emotions - the good, the bad and the ugly
The struggle of emotional pain is real. Do not let any person or a therapist convince you otherwise. Living in a society, which praises things like “Keep calm and carry on” invalidates any emotional turmoil we might be experiencing. How many times have you heard this advice – “Just be optimistic, be positive and things will be fine. I am sure it will all work out somehow.” While it may be true, it might be invalidating someone’s reality completely. But what does it even mean to invalidate someone’s reality? It means that we are not willing to participate in their perception of the world, by seeing it as valid, as TRUE for them. EVERYONE has done this at a certain point of their lives. Some of us have managed to see the inherent damage that it does to people and some of us are still in denial. Some of us oscilate between these two extremes. I know I do. But I have also learned that maybe what that person actually needs to hear, is things like “I completely understand how, what you are going through might be difficult for you. In fact, it is a completely normal reaction and I would probably feel the exact same way if I was in your situation.” We do this easily, when the pain is visible – for instance if someone broke their leg. We empathize with them, we offer them support, etc. But, when the pain is emotional, we expect them to pick themselves up ASAP and keep on going with life, as if nothing happened. “That’s just life, you know… get over it, stop whining…” Why is this important? Because the extreme side of this attitude leads to suicide. At the more “regular” side of it, leads to feelings of being misunderstood, isolated and unsupported. If this is the relationships we have with one another, this is a recipe for a disaster on all levels of existence. Let’s change that!!! My wish for this platform is to encourage and allow people to express ALL emotion, regardless of whether it is labeled as “positive” or “negative”. My wish for you is to allow your pain to transform you into your most authentic self!
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